A few months ago, on an evening like any other, I had a sudden realization: I was in danger of wasting my life. As I sat and thought about what I should do with my life, I realized something that changed my life forever: I was unhappy.
The way I see it is simple. You can live a life where you must meet up to everyone’s expectations, or go about your own business. By meeting everyone’s expectations, you keep others, especially those who love you such as family and close friends, happy, but in the end, you’re unhappy. On the contrary, if you go about your own business, you risk losing many people in your life, but will sustain your own happiness. To shed some light on those two hard decisions, the most successful people in the world have left everything they have had and started fresh with themselves, there’s no doubt about that, but they’ve gone through hell and back to get there.
So it’s a new year, which means we all have the opportunity to start fresh and work to make us better beings, for ourselves. I’ve come up with a few tips that will get things rolling.
1. Drop everything that makes you miserable.
It’s 2014, people. Drop everything that makes you miserable. This includes physical objects, inner insecurities, addictions, and most importantly; people. No matter what you or that special someone has ‘been’ through, if they’ve done something that has really bugged or upset you, they deserve nothing of you anymore. I don’t care if you’ve been together for five years or three months, no one deserves your happiness other than you, period.
2. Stop Complaining and Smile!
What’s the sense of life if all you ever do is complain about this or that? No one likes negativity, and albeit, we’ve all been there. You’re depressed, you’re stressed out of your right mind, everything around you seems to be killing you inside, and all you can think about doing is blaming others, but is that the real problem?
The day you stop blaming others is the day you begin to discover who you really are. Yes, sometimes it may be their fault, but accept their lack of responsibility, suck it up and move on, because ultimately, life’s too short to waste your time on any prick.
3. Trust Your Gut.
I strongly believe in this one. Next time you have a decision to make, and you’re down to one, two, or three options, just pick the one that feels right, and go with it. Never regret the decisions you make, though. Just live life by the 3 C’s: choices, chances, and changes. You need to make a choice to take a chance, like in poker you must take a risk and bet to win big, without doing so, your life will never change.
Face it, we all make mistakes, it’s human nature. You’d have to be a blind fool to not make one, because no one is perfect. Start discovering people and places, experiment with different things, bite the bullet and just go for it. The worlds a huge place, you’d be surprised at what you can find out there.
4. Recognize your Flaws.
Confidence is the key to happiness, but if you’re so confident that you don’t recognize where there’s room for improvement, you won’t be seeing your real self and may be an unpleasant person to be around with.
Accept constructive criticism. If someone is rude or a plain *fffiretruck* about you either directly or behind your back, you don’t have to listen, they’re behind your back for a reason. But if your friend, parent, or even your colleague suggests that you need to work on a certain aspect of yourself, such as your listening skills or attention to detail, listen with an open mind. Now loving yourself does not allow for you to be cocky, trust me; no one likes cocky people.
Always remember that you’re beautiful inside and out, and if anyone dares to judge you off of something ridiculous like physical appearance, than know that they are a victim of the virus, ‘asshole‘.
5. Forgive and Forget.
And finally, we must learn to forgive and forget. Forgiving is hard, especially when it comes to relationships, and there’s no doubt that forgetting is even harder. Forgetting a relationship in your past is a difficult thing to do, but it’s necessary if you want the freedom that comes with living in the moment. Even though your ex lover might have been a huge part of your life, he or she no longer is. Thus, every second you spend thinking about your ex is a second you could be thinking about someone or something uplifting and inspiring in the present.
Also, focusing on an old relationship like a close friendship that was lost will limit you from enjoying any potential new relationships. It is possible to be happy without your ex, especially when you’re young, and it’s always possible to move on and forget about them.
YOU DO NOT LIVE TO BLOW SUNSHINE UP THEIR ASS.
Although it’s good to forget them, never forget what they did to you, and don’t take it to heart ever again, move on. Forgiving people allows ourselves to create a sense of peace from within. But what happens when you’ve been forgiving the same person for so long? The answer is simple… stop it, ignore them, and move the bleep on. I will say it again, no one deserves your happiness but you.
So take these simple tips and start practicing them, you’ll start feeling happier, in control, and free in no time.