5 Ways to be Happier

A few months ago, on an evening like any other, I had a sudden realization: I was in danger of wasting my life. As I sat and thought about what I should do with my life, I realized something that changed my life forever: I was unhappy.

The way I see it is simple. You can live a life where you must meet up to everyone’s expectations, or go about your own business. By meeting everyone’s expectations, you keep others, especially those who love you such as family and close friends, happy, but in the end, you’re unhappy. On the contrary, if you go about your own business, you risk losing many people in your life, but will sustain your own happiness. To shed some light on those two hard decisions, the most successful people in the world have left everything they have had and started fresh with themselves, there’s no doubt about that, but they’ve gone through hell and back to get there.

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So it’s a new year, which means we all have the opportunity to start fresh and work to make us better beings, for ourselves. I’ve come up with a few tips that will get things rolling.

1. Drop everything that makes you miserable.

It’s 2014, people. Drop everything that makes you miserable. This includes physical objects, inner insecurities, addictions, and most importantly; people. No matter what you or that special someone has ‘been’ through, if they’ve done something that has really bugged or upset you, they deserve nothing of you anymore. I don’t care if you’ve been together for five years or three months, no one deserves your happiness other than you, period.

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2. Stop Complaining and Smile!

What’s the sense of life if all you ever do is complain about this or that? No one likes negativity, and albeit, we’ve all been there. You’re depressed, you’re stressed out of your right mind, everything around you seems to be killing you inside, and all you can think about doing is blaming others, but is that the real problem?

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The day you stop blaming others is the day you begin to discover who you really are. Yes, sometimes it may be their fault, but accept their lack of responsibility, suck it up and move on, because ultimately, life’s too short to waste your time on any prick.

3. Trust Your Gut.

I strongly believe in this one. Next time you have a decision to make, and you’re down to one, two, or three options, just pick the one that feels right, and go with it. Never regret the decisions you make, though. Just live life by the 3 C’s: choices, chances, and changes. You need to make a choice to take a chance, like in poker you must take a risk and bet to win big, without doing so, your life will never change.

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Face it, we all make mistakes, it’s human nature. You’d have to be a blind fool to not make one, because no one is perfect. Start discovering people and places, experiment with different things, bite the bullet and just go for it. The worlds a huge place, you’d be surprised at what you can find out there.

4. Recognize your Flaws.

Confidence is the key to happiness, but if you’re so confident that you don’t recognize where there’s room for improvement, you won’t be seeing your real self and may be an unpleasant person to be around with.

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Accept constructive criticism. If someone is rude or a plain *fffiretruck* about you either directly or behind your back, you don’t have to listen, they’re behind your back for a reason. But if your friend, parent, or even your colleague suggests that you need to work on a certain aspect of yourself, such as your listening skills or attention to detail, listen with an open mind. Now loving yourself does not allow for you to be cocky, trust me; no one likes cocky people.

Always remember that you’re beautiful inside and out, and if anyone dares to judge you off of something ridiculous like physical appearance, than know that they are a victim of the virus, ‘asshole‘.

5. Forgive and Forget.

And finally, we must learn to forgive and forget. Forgiving is hard, especially when it comes to relationships, and there’s no doubt that forgetting is even harder. Forgetting a relationship in your past is a difficult thing to do, but it’s necessary if you want the freedom that comes with living in the moment. Even though your ex lover might have been a huge part of your life, he or she no longer is. Thus, every second you spend thinking about your ex is a second you could be thinking about someone or something uplifting and inspiring in the present.

Also, focusing on an old relationship like a close friendship that was lost will limit you from enjoying any potential new relationships. It is possible to be happy without your ex, especially when you’re young, and it’s always possible to move on and forget about them.

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YOU DO NOT LIVE TO BLOW SUNSHINE UP THEIR ASS.

Although it’s good to forget them, never forget what they did to you, and don’t take it to heart ever again, move on. Forgiving people allows ourselves to create a sense of peace from within. But what happens when you’ve been forgiving the same person for so long? The answer is simple… stop it, ignore them, and move the bleep on. I will say it again, no one deserves your happiness but you.

So take these simple tips and start practicing them, you’ll start feeling happier, in control, and free in no time.

 

Stress Kills

I just finished my ideology exam today, it was a long two hours.

You know that feeling your eyes get when you’ve been concentrating for so long on something and they just go cross-eyed? It’s like whenever I take a biology or chemistry exam, no problem; but when it comes to a literature arts exam such as English or Socials where critical thinking is the key to success, my brain bogs the hell out.

Not to mention that leftover wait time you must sit through before leaving if you finish early, God that’s the worst – tickticktick.

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I strongly believe in personal time, you know; that time you can take to relax for a bit. Go for a walk, exercise, go swimming, breathe. Let go of all the stress for at least five minutes tops. I’m going to the beach with a besty; Kaela in about an hour, gonna sit off, have a few beers, talk and most importantly let go, despite having my last diploma exam on Thursday.

I think one of the key problems in the world today is that everyone has become way too focused on the gas pedal, people do not realize how stressed they are until they sit down and take a break for a second. It’s one of the reasons why I do not want to have kids, could you imagine how much homework they will have?! Just think about it… our parents’ education levels didn’t even come close to competing with the educational standards we have today, with the rise of technology on the continuum, I’m really gonna feel sorry for the next few generations to come. There’s no doubt about it, stress kills. It raises your cholesterol, get’s your blood boiling, and most importantly – lowers your immune system, which can cause lists of different types of cancer and diseases.

So I dare you, go outside and breathe, take a break for just a few minutes and enjoy the brighter side of life.

And don’t forget your beer.

A New Year with New Surprises.

I would have never suspected for this year to be so – big.

It feels as if everyone’s true colours are beginning to shine nice and bright this year. Everyday it seems I lose a friend, and slowly over weeks or months I gain even better ones, and even though it’s a shame that I’ve lost that connection with the people I have known for years, nothings seems better than some fresh air.

My horoscope incites that I should worry about myself this year, and focus on building my own character before jumping into other people’s lives. Although it’s funny, because all I’ve ever done my whole life was to be there for others in their time of need, to comfort, to love and support, and ironically enough, it’s really nipped me in the ass. The last few months have been a real game changer for me, and so much has changed in the last year that it’s almost hard to believe. I’ve realized how fake people can really be, even those who you consider your ‘best friend.’

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Despite my health problems with my thyroid that I’ve been battling against during the last 8 months, i’m finally flying out to Boston on February 10th to have surgery! Big news I know. I’ve been waiting so long to get things going, and although my biopsy results have come back as inconclusive but suspicious, I am happy to finally get it dealt with by a real professional. The whole idea of surgery does indeed scare the living daylights out of me, but the experience will be worthwhile and I can finally get this bastard out of me.

I’ve started up P90X again, and did some plyometrics today, God did my legs feel weak as hell after, I even collapsed going down the stairs afterwards. I do feel a lot more rejuvenated after that workout though, which is what i’m going to be keeping up in the next few weeks before surgery.

So overall my advice for everyone is to worry about yourself right now, focus on what you can do to make your own self, better. Ignore those who give up on you and always push forward positively, remove the negatives. Hater’s gonna hate, and hell yeah they’re gonna talk behind your back, but hey; that’s where they belong.

Oh, and don’t even think about loving someone else if you cannot love yourself, period.